Let’s Talk

Trains at Ikebukuro, Tokyo, Japan
© 2014 Charles Dunlevy for Dunlevy Publishing

Let us talk. Sounds familiar? Every year, we have an event titled Bell Let’s Talk. It is a great program to bring awareness to mental health and combat the stigma. For every social media post that includes the hashtag #BellLetsTalk, Bell Media makes a cash donation towards mental health.

I always thought this was a great initiative. Several local high-profile individuals have come forward with their stories of how they deal with mental health issues. Their stories have been immeasurably helpful to hundreds of thousands if not, millions of people. Among these brave and inspirational people are one of my favourite television hosts and one of my favourite radio hosts.

Let’s Talk. Bell, let us talk about mental health. Let us talk about the anguish that is gripping a society dealing with the pains of isolation amid fears of the raging pandemic. Let us talk about the increased numbers of people suffering from mental health issues. Let us talk about several of my most cheerful friends now showing signs of depression.

Bell Media, let’s talk. Let us talk about the wonderful women and men who work at your media outlets… radio and television stations coast to coast. Let us talk about these wonderful people who entertain, inform, and even keep us company while we work or isolate at home.

Let us talk about how as fans of these personalities, we have been in communication with them via social media. Let us talk about how wonderful your radio and television hosts have been treating their fans throughout the years.

Let’s talk mental health. Yes, let’s talk about the inspiration that several of us drew from your on-air personalities. Let us talk about how their own stories have inspired us to keep up the good fight and also to become better people.

Let’s talk about those of us who have been alone in isolation for months on end… those of us who through isolation sought comfort in the familiar voices on talk radio. Those of us who sought comfort in the familiar faces on television.

Let us talk about the fans of these personalities who after years of listening and/or watching them have either become friends in real life, or feel like they are friends. These are people we invite into our homes every time we turn on the television or radio. These are the people who keep us company during isolation. These are the same people who keep us company while we worked at our jobs. These are the same people who keep us company while we commute to and from work. These are people. They are heroes in their own ways.

Finally, let’s talk about how you laid off hundreds of people just days after your wide-spread Let’s Talk campaign for mental health. Have you no heart? Have you no mercy for the mental health of not only the fans of the personalities you so heartlessly tossed out the door, but the mental health of the very personalities themselves?

The day I learned of the first set of layoffs, I was devastated. The additional rounds sent shock waves through my mind. I am blessed to work for an incredible company doing work that I truly love and enjoy, but the day you laid off some of my heroes was a dark day.

Bell Media, let’s talk about the cruelty you inflicted on your now-former employees and their legions of fans. Let’s talk about the damage you caused to mental health. Let’s talk about the depression you brought upon us. Thank you Bell. Thank you for helping us out.

Let’s Talk. The gimmick is over.

Isolated Thoughts

Ilgwang Beach, Busan, South Korea
© 2018 Charles Dunlevy for Dunlevy Publishing

I sit here staring through the window.  I sip on a beer. I can feel the buzz through my existence.  I catch myself sitting here doing nothing.  

Music by Genesis is playing in the background as I fight with myself over whether to write or code.  I am lost.  I am staring.  I see trees.  Apartments.  More trees than apartments.  

Did I tell you that I have a beautiful view from my suite?  From here, I can see 3 of my childhood homes.  I can see things I like such as trees, apartments, blue sky, and more trees.  I can see the birds.  

I cannot see mountains.  The Greater Toronto Area is a flat landmass devoid of mountains.  I miss the mountains.  I miss being in Korea and Japan.  Over seventy percent of South Korea’s land mass is mountainous.  The more southern parts of Japan share similar topography.

I miss Korea.  I miss Japan.  I miss my Korean and Japanese friends.  I miss my friends right here in Canada as I cope with this lockdown.  

I fight.  I fight off the mad thoughts.  I battle the maniacal thoughts which try to convince me to give up this fight for a normal life.  I fight the dreaded thought that the rest of life may be under isolation.  I fight loneliness by taking another sip of alcohol and starting another playlist.  

I stare through my large picture windows.  I think. I drink.  I merely exist. I am in isolation.  It will get better. Life shall return. I am big.  I am sexy.  I am great and so are you.

The Bearer of Bad News

Trains in Tokyo, Japan
© 2018 Charles Dunlevy

I have always stated, “I don’t want to be the bearer of bad news but…” Revealing bad news is something I despise but have had to do more times than I would like. The other day I was at home working on one of my computers while listening to the radio when something dawned on me. A clip of the previous day’s briefing by Toronto’s medical officer of health played and I found myself getting angry.

I paused and reflected on my emotional response to hearing this person’s voice on the radio. It was then that I realized how we may be unfairly getting upset with the wrong people. These people are only doing their jobs, and their jobs require them to make decisions that are meant to save as many lives as possible.

I paused and reflected on my emotional response to hearing this person’s voice on the radio. It was then that I realized how we may be unfairly getting upset with the wrong people. These people are only doing their jobs, and their jobs require them to make decisions that are meant to save as many lives as possible. They are the bearers of bad news.

These difficult decisions they make tend to cause people to get upset. Oh no, stores will close earlier. How will I cope? After several months of hearing about restrictions or just updates of the daily toll the pandemic is having on society, we tend to build up a sort of negative connotation towards those who are tasked with revealing this information to us.

This is all psychological in nature. After dozens of press conferences where we are informed of how bad things are, we subconsciously begin to associate the bearer of bad news with negativity. It should not be surprising because there are certain figures who have become quite public since the pandemic began where every time you see their faces on television or hear their voices on the radio, they are telling you bad news. Naturally, we tend to develop a sort of resentment towards these people – an unconscious resentment.

This week I realized how difficult it must be to be in their position. They are only doing their job, but because their job entails telling the truth, they end up receiving unnecessary hate. I have heard so many negative comments from friends towards these individuals. I see the harsh comments online.

It must be difficult to appear on television almost daily to give bad news to the masses. I truly do feel bad for these people. I am thankful that they are keeping us informed and giving us advice that will help us all.

They are performing their duties as paid professionals devoid of any political affiliation. They are out there every day trying to help us understand the gravity of the situation we are in. Prior to the pandemic, most of us had never heard of nor seen these people. After 10 months, our minds now associate their names and images with the negative situation we are all living with.

We should all try to imagine ourselves in their position. These people who work tirelessly for the public will always be associated with this awful pandemic. Decades into the future, online searches for Covid-19 and Toronto or Ontario or Canada will bring up images of these people.

I am thankful for their service to the public. I look forward to the end of the pandemic when we start to hear good news from these same people. I cannot wait to hear updates informing us that infection rates are low and restrictions are being lifted. After that, our brains will begin to associate these people with good news.

Let us do our best to follow their advice and be safe. The end of the pandemic is near. Let’s just hang in there a few more months and we shall get there together.

Hats off to people such as Dr. Eileen de Villa, Medical Officer of Health for the City of Toronto, Ontario Premier Doug Ford, Dr. Theresa Tham, Chief Public Health Officer of Canada, and Prime Minister Justin Trudeau for making difficult decisions and keeping us informed. Their jobs cannot be easy and I appreciate what they are doing for our city, province, and nation respectively.

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